Order Elavil With No Prescription http://ultraviolet.in/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/ A SITE FOR INDIAN FEMINISTS Sun, 05 Feb 2012 10:30:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Order Elavil With No Prescription http://ultraviolet.in/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/comment-page-1/#comment-390 Dilnavaz Bamboat Mon, 15 Sep 2008 10:15:36 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/#comment-390 @Sunitha: :) Oh I'm sure there's lots of grey territory. Which is why I applaud women who have the patience to resist stereotypes. @Sorab: Yes, I've heard the "new life, therefore new name" argument. Interesting how men continue with the same old life while life changes happen only to half the world. @Sunitha: :) Oh I’m sure there’s lots of grey territory. Which is why I applaud women who have the patience to resist stereotypes.

@Sorab: Yes, I’ve heard the “new life, therefore new name” argument. Interesting how men continue with the same old life while life changes happen only to half the world.

]]> Order Elavil With No Prescription http://ultraviolet.in/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/comment-page-1/#comment-389 Dilnavaz Bamboat Mon, 15 Sep 2008 10:10:58 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/#comment-389 Bhanu Prasad: Speaking of points to ruminate on, I'm not sure you have one. Let me copy and paste a part of my post for you: *I’m all for individual choices. If your husband’s last name floats your boat, hey, go right ahead and make it Rumpelstiltskin, for all I care. But to subject a person, nay, a woman— always, always and always a woman — to criticism for exercising her right to her own name is unacceptable and indicative of a still-medieval mindset.* There. Have I made myself clear now? :) Bhanu Prasad: Speaking of points to ruminate on, I’m not sure you have one. Let me copy and paste a part of my post for you:

*I’m all for individual choices. If your husband’s last name floats your boat, hey, go right ahead and make it Rumpelstiltskin, for all I care. But to subject a person, nay, a woman— always, always and always a woman — to criticism for exercising her right to her own name is unacceptable and indicative of a still-medieval mindset.*

There. Have I made myself clear now? :)

]]> Order Elavil With No Prescription http://ultraviolet.in/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/comment-page-1/#comment-388 Bhanu Prasad Sat, 06 Sep 2008 07:44:25 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/#comment-388 One should notice that world's most powerful women like Indra Nooyi, Carly fiorina , Sarah Palin, Hillary Clinton, Nancy Pelosi, have all changed their second names. Even Amy Lee, founder and Lead Singer of immensely popular rock band evanescence, goes and marries an ordinary doctor and changes her second name. Most accomplished women have changed their second names after marriage. Infact most of them were very famous by the time they married. This is a point for you to ruminate upon. Even the mother of second wave feminism , Betty Frieden, changed her second name. As such I would not insist on my future wife to change her name. If she wants do change it out of her own conscience I would not object. One should notice that world’s most powerful women like Indra Nooyi, Carly fiorina , Sarah Palin, Hillary Clinton, Nancy Pelosi, have all changed their second names.

Even Amy Lee, founder and Lead Singer of immensely popular rock band evanescence, goes and marries an ordinary doctor and changes her second name.

Most accomplished women have changed their second names after marriage. Infact most of them were very famous by the time they married.

This is a point for you to ruminate upon.

Even the mother of second wave feminism , Betty Frieden, changed her second name.

As such I would not insist on my future wife to change her name. If she wants do change it out of her own conscience I would not object.

]]> Order Elavil With No Prescription http://ultraviolet.in/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/comment-page-1/#comment-387 Sorab Dalal Thu, 03 Jul 2008 08:44:59 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/#comment-387 I don't understand how anyone can give up the name they grew up with (unless they don't like the way it sounds, I actually know someone like this). I have seen a number of women who have changed their first name as well as their last name. This almost seems to be a giving up of identity so you can only be identified as a devoted wife and mother etc etc (what the name change has to do with any of these things is totally beyond me). I could not give up my name and therefore cannot comprehend asking someone else to do so. Sigh we have come so far but have so much further to go I don’t understand how anyone can give up the name they grew up with (unless they don’t like the way it sounds, I actually know someone like this). I have seen a number of women who have changed their first name as well as their last name. This almost seems to be a giving up of identity so you can only be identified as a devoted wife and mother etc etc (what the name change has to do with any of these things is totally beyond me). I could not give up my name and therefore cannot comprehend asking someone else to do so. Sigh we have come so far but have so much further to go

]]> Order Elavil With No Prescription http://ultraviolet.in/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/comment-page-1/#comment-381 Sunitha Job Tue, 22 Apr 2008 04:09:14 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/#comment-381 I did not change my name after marriage and it annoys me a lot when people call me or assume I am Mrs. Job ( to me thats my mom). I actually named my daugher so that she has my name and my husband's name. I did not want her to just carry his name because she is so much a part of me as much as of him. But guess what the issue was then..what should be the order his name first and my name second or the other way round? I did not change my name after marriage and it annoys me a lot when people call me or assume I am Mrs. Job ( to me thats my mom). I actually named my daugher so that she has my name and my husband’s name. I did not want her to just carry his name because she is so much a part of me as much as of him. But guess what the issue was then..what should be the order his name first and my name second or the other way round?

]]> Order Elavil With No Prescription http://ultraviolet.in/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/comment-page-1/#comment-370 Dilnavaz Bamboat Tue, 26 Feb 2008 17:28:45 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/#comment-370 @Aditya: So I could try one of two things: have folks in India stumble through Dilnavazdottir or get myself a really warm coat and boots. ;) Thanks for sharing! @Aditya: So I could try one of two things: have folks in India stumble through Dilnavazdottir or get myself a really warm coat and boots. ;) Thanks for sharing!

]]> Order Elavil With No Prescription http://ultraviolet.in/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/comment-page-1/#comment-369 Dilnavaz Bamboat Tue, 26 Feb 2008 17:26:30 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/#comment-369 @Aditya: So I could try one of two things: have folks in India stumble through Dilnavazdottir or buy a really warm coat and boots. ;) @Aditya: So I could try one of two things: have folks in India stumble through Dilnavazdottir or buy a really warm coat and boots. ;)

]]> Order Elavil With No Prescription http://ultraviolet.in/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/comment-page-1/#comment-368 Aditya Tue, 26 Feb 2008 06:04:16 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/#comment-368 The Icelanders seem to have it better. They don't have surnames as we tend to know them, rather they reflect the immediate father (or mother) of the child and not the historic family lineage. These 'surnames' can be either patronymic or matronymic. And Icelandic women don't take the name of the husband. (problem solved!) - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Icelandic_name In Finland, a married couple is free to choose the surname of either spouse, or even a double-barreled surname. (ie It need not be only the woman who changes her name!) - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Family_name#Finland The Icelanders seem to have it better. They don’t have surnames as we tend to know them, rather they reflect the immediate father (or mother) of the child and not the historic family lineage. These ‘surnames’ can be either patronymic or matronymic. And Icelandic women don’t take the name of the husband. (problem solved!) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Icelandic_name

In Finland, a married couple is free to choose the surname of either spouse, or even a double-barreled surname. (ie It need not be only the woman who changes her name!) – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Family_name#Finland

]]> Order Elavil With No Prescription http://ultraviolet.in/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/comment-page-1/#comment-367 Dilnavaz Bamboat Mon, 25 Feb 2008 09:50:46 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/#comment-367 @Unmana: So we're in agreement. Now what do we do about the gazillion others--women, parents and close friends included--who think we're being anal and rigid by insisting on maiden names? @Unmana: So we’re in agreement. Now what do we do about the gazillion others–women, parents and close friends included–who think we’re being anal and rigid by insisting on maiden names?

]]> Order Elavil With No Prescription http://ultraviolet.in/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/comment-page-1/#comment-366 Unmana Mon, 25 Feb 2008 06:32:51 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/11/17/the-naming-of-the-shrew/#comment-366 Exactly. By the time you get married, you've already had that name for so many years, that it's yours now. Why change it for another? Why should it matter, anyway? (Also, why should children have to have their father's last names, but that is a consequence of patriarchial and patrilinear societies, which is what we don't agree with :)) Exactly. By the time you get married, you’ve already had that name for so many years, that it’s yours now. Why change it for another? Why should it matter, anyway? (Also, why should children have to have their father’s last names, but that is a consequence of patriarchial and patrilinear societies, which is what we don’t agree with :) )

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