Comments on: The Presence of a Uterus http://ultraviolet.in/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/ a site for Indian feminists Fri, 12 Mar 2010 14:20:52 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: DamionKutaeff http://ultraviolet.in/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/comment-page-1/#comment-477 DamionKutaeff Sun, 23 Mar 2008 12:58:55 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/#comment-477 Hello everybody, my name is Damion, and I'm glad to join your conmunity, and wish to assit as far as possible. Hello everybody, my name is Damion, and I’m glad to join your conmunity,
and wish to assit as far as possible.

]]> By: Space Bar http://ultraviolet.in/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/comment-page-1/#comment-475 Space Bar Tue, 04 Mar 2008 12:05:46 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/#comment-475 Avanti, The Radical Ancient: Thanks. It seems to have touch a chord somewhere! Avanti, The Radical Ancient: Thanks. It seems to have touch a chord somewhere!

]]> By: theradicalancient http://ultraviolet.in/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/comment-page-1/#comment-476 theradicalancient Mon, 03 Mar 2008 14:44:06 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/#comment-476 Wonderfully thought-provoking post. Just leaving my trail here to let you know I dropped by, and that you touched me :) I must confess, in the presence of a baby I generally go all gooey. And unless I have something specific to say to the new mom, or know her well... I'm just a puddle of goo admiring the baby. MY brains fall out, so I'd have nothing else to say to the new mom! Wonderfully thought-provoking post. Just leaving my trail here to let you know I dropped by, and that you touched me :)

I must confess, in the presence of a baby I generally go all gooey. And unless I have something specific to say to the new mom, or know her well… I’m just a puddle of goo admiring the baby. MY brains fall out, so I’d have nothing else to say to the new mom!

]]> By: avantisane http://ultraviolet.in/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/comment-page-1/#comment-487 avantisane Fri, 18 Jan 2008 10:31:33 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/#comment-487 Really liked your article.It started a chain of thoughts.Linking it to my blog,if you don' mind... Really liked your article.It started a chain of thoughts.Linking it to my blog,if you don’ mind…

]]> By: fmfulplease http://ultraviolet.in/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/comment-page-1/#comment-481 fmfulplease Fri, 28 Dec 2007 16:37:44 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/#comment-481 Just to clarify my comments were directed to the categories not the post so Spacebar I think we are on the same page. Just to clarify my comments were directed to the categories not the post so Spacebar I think we are on the same page.

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]]> By: Rohini http://ultraviolet.in/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/comment-page-1/#comment-479 Rohini Thu, 27 Dec 2007 14:36:56 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/#comment-479 Hi. This is my first time here and I thought this was an excellent post. I felt like this when I was at home for six months after my son was born. But it did get okay once I went back to work... I think these kinds of people are mostly uncomfortable with moms who stay at home thinking that just because they choose to stay at home with their kids, that is all they think or talk about which is completely ridiculous. Hi. This is my first time here and I thought this was an excellent post.

I felt like this when I was at home for six months after my son was born. But it did get okay once I went back to work…

I think these kinds of people are mostly uncomfortable with moms who stay at home thinking that just because they choose to stay at home with their kids, that is all they think or talk about which is completely ridiculous.

]]> By: SG http://ultraviolet.in/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/comment-page-1/#comment-478 SG Thu, 27 Dec 2007 11:05:30 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/#comment-478 That was an excellent post. We all see different things in our experiences. I feel, with some friends, a distance owing to their having had kids. One thing is for sure. They have changed in some ways; I have changed in others. **Sometimes, that's all there is to it. Other times, the attitudes are real and unmistakable--resentment (early on, when their child needs care), smugness (they are more "normal" than me). I admit to showing emotions of my own. Mine is mostly disappointment in those friends who have entered motherhood without thought...without understanding how big a task it is. Some others I know are in a loveless marriage and have had a child in order to get love. While I feel sorry for them, I also disapprove because I can't help thinking about how the child will cope... That was an excellent post.

We all see different things in our experiences.

I feel, with some friends, a distance owing to their having had kids. One thing is for sure. They have changed in some ways; I have changed in others. **Sometimes, that’s all there is to it. Other times, the attitudes are real and unmistakable–resentment (early on, when their child needs care), smugness (they are more “normal” than me).

I admit to showing emotions of my own. Mine is mostly disappointment in those friends who have entered motherhood without thought…without understanding how big a task it is. Some others I know are in a loveless marriage and have had a child in order to get love. While I feel sorry for them, I also disapprove because I can’t help thinking about how the child will cope…

]]> By: Space Bar http://ultraviolet.in/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/comment-page-1/#comment-482 Space Bar Thu, 27 Dec 2007 04:09:34 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/#comment-482 Falstaff: Precisely. Making something sacred ensures that its scope is limited. And no, not out of line at all - there are some excellent reasons why the man is an ex-husband. What can I say? :-) Anita: You know, I have a friend who did this when her baby was born - took her for meetings and people seemed okay with it after a bit. Frankly, I wouldn't dream of doing it. They might be able to deal with it, but I couldn't deal with my mind being divided in two places, doing justice to neither. But I'm glad work places are flexible enough to accomodate it. John: Thanks! Max: Not sure it's awe. I mean, some people just may not have the famed 'mothering' instinct and it's a measure of our conditioning that we expect all women to have it. Apropos of which, my mother's friend, who wailed just as she was going into labour: "I don't want to have a baby!" Her mother replied with grim satisfaction that she should have thought of this <i>much</i> earlier! Trees: Precisely my point. Why the contempt about discussions about motherhood? To each their own and all that. Harini: :-) fmfulplease: No, no. This wasn't meant to divide anybody. Just to point out that sometimes there are barriers to understanding each other because we think in categories. What does 'feminine' mean, anyway? Falstaff: Precisely. Making something sacred ensures that its scope is limited. And no, not out of line at all – there are some excellent reasons why the man is an ex-husband. What can I say? :-)

Anita: You know, I have a friend who did this when her baby was born – took her for meetings and people seemed okay with it after a bit. Frankly, I wouldn’t dream of doing it. They might be able to deal with it, but I couldn’t deal with my mind being divided in two places, doing justice to neither.

But I’m glad work places are flexible enough to accomodate it.

John: Thanks!

Max: Not sure it’s awe. I mean, some people just may not have the famed ‘mothering’ instinct and it’s a measure of our conditioning that we expect all women to have it.

Apropos of which, my mother’s friend, who wailed just as she was going into labour: “I don’t want to have a baby!” Her mother replied with grim satisfaction that she should have thought of this much earlier!

Trees: Precisely my point. Why the contempt about discussions about motherhood? To each their own and all that.

Harini: :-)

fmfulplease: No, no. This wasn’t meant to divide anybody. Just to point out that sometimes there are barriers to understanding each other because we think in categories. What does ‘feminine’ mean, anyway?

]]> By: The mother of all issues | DesiPundit http://ultraviolet.in/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/comment-page-1/#comment-483 The mother of all issues | DesiPundit Wed, 26 Dec 2007 19:29:38 +0000 http://youngfeminists.wordpress.com/2007/12/20/the-presence-of-a-uterus/#comment-483 [...] remembers discovering, as a new mother, that even other young women looked down on her. Like her, I can also never understand our attitude to motherhood - it swings wildly from [...] [...] remembers discovering, as a new mother, that even other young women looked down on her. Like her, I can also never understand our attitude to motherhood – it swings wildly from [...]

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