Comments on: Instant Divorces

By: Indian Homemaker

Indian Homemaker — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 11:40:47 +0000

Here from Apu’s blog. Brilliant post. Totally agree.

By: Swapna

Swapna — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 16:37:13 +0000

I know that I have come late to the party. But, I am new to this site and I found this post very interesting and relevant.

A few thoughts…

There was an article in the Hindu titled “Divorce can be granted even if consent is withdrawn: court”. It said:

“Writing the judgment, Justice Kabir cited Supreme Court judgments and said no purpose would be served by prolonging the agony of the parties to a marriage which had broken down irretrievably, and the curtain had to be rung down at some stage.”

I do not understand how the court works with “prolonging the agony” and “the curtain had to be rung down at some stage”. In the given link/website, I wanted to suggest that divorce should be made as easy as marriage – then, the number of cases in court might probably come down when people cannot use the judicial system to trouble and torture others.

By: Vidyanand

Vidyanand — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 18:56:28 +0000

I totally don’t agree to the above Feminists words … if any one want to debate please feel free to send me your thoughts for clarification, My address vidyanand123@rediffmail.com

By: Vidyanand

Vidyanand — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 18:52:58 +0000

Divorce is a Hard truth especially for men after commiting and organising a family structure, just like a Doctor removes a posionious part from the body if necessary to protect the rest of the sole…it becomes madatory to eliminate un-compatable parter by loosing his prestage, social reputaion and lots of money…Indian women is always in a safer side in this whole epipode, She can file fake 498a,DV on husbands family to grab money and assets, More over I say now a days a Man with 2-3 daughters is a lucky…just hook them to rich families file 498a’s and grab as much as you can, Its hard truth but should accept Indian society has lost it family cultural and moral values totally…we can see those example items in family courts & women criminal courts.

By: apu

apu — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 07:14:46 +0000

Thanks all for your comments. I think society is slowing changing – but people have to become a lot more sensitive (and aware, as some of you pointed out, that outsiders may not know all the facts of the case).
Harmanjit – while I have seen websites claiming abuse of 498a, I have not come across any authentic data on the % of false cases.

By: Global Voices Online » India: Is divorce really the easy way out?

Global Voices Online » India: Is divorce really the easy way out? — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 18:20:38 +0000

[...] Singh at Ultra Violet shares her view that despite the rise in the number of divorce cases in India, a divorce is never the easy way out [...]

By: gooddaysunshine

gooddaysunshine — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 08:57:01 +0000

Just wondering if anyone is planning on writing on the whole Rita Joshi – Mayawati fracas..would love to hear a non political voice on it

By: Rakhi Pande

Rakhi Pande — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 06:19:56 +0000

Aparna Singh, your point of view is one hundred percent correct. This is the best written piece on this subject and am so glad to read it. A divorce can be for frivolous reasons only if the marriage was for a frivolous reason in the first place – to get a green card or home rental, like some claim. In my experience, the same people who consider it frivolous, are usually getting malicious pleasure out of speculation for why it happened. Especially so, if you choose not to wash your or rather, your ex’s dirty linen in public.

All your listed reasons are relevant because that’s the reality of what someone thinking of divorce has to battle. I fully endorse that even in this day and age, in India, a woman has a lot more to lose as compared to a man when a dreaded “divorcee”.

By: Joy of Having

Joy of Having — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 03:06:12 +0000

Well, the fact is that it is happening and will continue to happen…because, we have decided to overlook the fact that in any relation there are two aspects…natural and social.
This discussion can’t happen through comments…the fact remains that like all socially created taboos, marriage is nothing more than a social taboo. Did not you experience love before marriage or did not feel the physical urge towards someone else after marriage or think that you cannot like someone without marriage or even cannot share responsility without marriage?
Like I had written in my blog that “I love you is the biggest lie” because the truth is “I only love myself and I tell you that I love you is only because you satisfy my senses”. So also is the unwarranted importance of marriage…naturally you will feel the mental and physical urge, married or unmarried…one can still be responsible towards the kids and spouse because that is natural human behaviour. Don’t you have cases of physical relationship in offices or share your personal problems with friends?
So much importance should be given to a human existence but we only give importance to a social act called marriage….

By: sumana

sumana — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 02:05:25 +0000

Your point 3 is very pertinent- I would aslo like to add that it is a double whammy for divorced women in the coporate world – men feel more free to paw you and make advances since you are unattached and not a virgin and not being acceptive of these overtures can cost you!!!
At the same time, none of these men would think you would make a good wife coz you have failed once, and like always, it is the woman’s fault..hence she can’t be trusted.
Divorced women in the corporate world are perhaps most easily maligned by their male counterparts, and for no fault of theirs are their characters spoken of as questionable.
So, I don’t know if any of the taboo or stigma has really reduced for women.